Equal rights for the 3rd night

Are you familiar with the great work of Human Rights Campaign? Well, you should be. On their website, HRC describes themselves as

The Human Rights Campaign represents a grassroots force of over 750,000 members and supporters nationwide. As the largest national lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender civil rights organization, HRC envisions an America where LGBT people are ensured of their basic equal rights, and can be open, honest and safe at home, at work and in the community.

HRC is part of an effort to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell or DADT. I have posted about this a lot here and here.

On this third night of Chanukah, let’s keep the flame burning for equal rights for all through support of HRC.

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2 places no parent wants to go

A few years ago I did a Clinical Pastoral Education unit at Childrens Hospital Los Angeles.  Recently, they opened their new building, well they were scheduled to do it and I don’t know if they actually did, I haven’t driven by in a while.  Trust me when I say they do amazing work there and it is a worthwhile organization to support.

Similarly, in Toronto the Hospital for Sick Children, better known as Sick Kids (and no I didn’t come up with that name) does incredible things for children and is an entirely worthy organisation (did you catch how I spelled like a Canadian) to support.

Happy Chanukah.

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Put on your yarmulke…

it’s time for Chanukah!  Hooray!

Awhile ago I decided that for each night of Chanukah I would highlight an organization that does awesome work.  Some will be Jewish.  Some will be secular.  Some might be American, others Canadian.  Why, you ask?  Because for me, Chanukah isn’t about getting gifts, it is about giving them.  Even more, Chanukah is about acknowledging the dedicated work that people do to improve our world.

Translation: you should not buy me a Chanukah gift.  Instead you should give that money to one of these awesome organizations.

My meal group on an AJWS rabbinic mission to El Salvador

Do you know about the amazing American Jewish World Service?  Well you should.  You can go to their website for loads more information.  In short though, AJWS does the awesome work around the world to combat global poverty in the name of the Jewish community not through bandaids but by sustaining local grassroots organizations that are doing the right kinds of work.  Even Nick Kristof likes them.

Happy Chanukah from me to you.

And super happy birthday to Dr. America!

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Let’s talk about it

Today marks World AIDS day.  This moment is to remember those whose lives have been list, to educate and re-educate ourselves and our children, and our community.  Let us remember the individuals both named and unnamed who have lost their lives to the ravages of HIV disease by talking about HIV and AIDS with dignity.  Let’s all teach people (especially youth) to use condoms when having any type of sex.  Remember that HIV is not transmitted through hugs. Don’t forget that there is nothing scary about being tested and asking one’s partners to be tested before engaging in sexual activity.

May the memory of the righteous ones who lost their lives to HIV disease and AIDS forever be a blessing.

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The iPad I got but never wanted

MY MOM and MY DAD had matching iPads. They got them in June before MY MOM retired and used them for lots of things. Like Oprah, MY MOM loved the scrabble app. (I do too and will gladly play at any time).

As you, loyal reader might recall, the iPad was on the list of things wanted but certainly didn’t need.

Yet, now I find myself typing this post on MY MOM’s iPad which is now my iPad. I never thought it would happen that I would inherit an ipad under these circumstances. I know MY MOM would want me to have it. THE DIVA completely agrees. Thereby I have the most bittersweet iPad known to humankind.

I would prefer not to have an iPad and have MY MOM instead. That’s the real truth.

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The nightmare that just won’t end

Thank you to everyone in the blogosphere and in the real-lifeosphere who have been so incredibly supportive of my family and I through this journey.  I have a feeling that my blog posts going forward will have lots to do with MY MOM and the grieving process.

There is a lot to write.  For the moment though, all I can manage is to describe sitting in this nightmare from which I cannot awaken.  It started when I landed in Los Angeles to the news of my mother’s death and though I have slept and taken some naps, I just cannot get out of it.  Fortunately, MY DAD and THE DIVA and I are in this together and we have been surrounded by loving family and friends.  If there is anything that makes these past few days tolerable it is the amount of love coming our way.  Thanks for sending it.  I’m sending it right back at you.

Until then, happy (AMERICAN) Thanksgiving. Remember to tell the people you love just how you feel about them.  Now.  Don’t wait.

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Read locally. Think globally. Wednesday, December 8.

Dinner: 7.00 p.m. • Program: 7.30 p.m.

Social Action
Read Locally. Think Globally.

Join our lively discussions on important issues that will enable us to explore the world in which we live.

Our first book, The Bottom Billion: Why the Poorest Countries are Failing and What Can Be Done About It by Professor Paul Collier, explores the reason why impoverished countries fail to progress despite international aid and support.

Join us for a light dinner followed by a thought-provoking discussion led by Rabbi Eleanor Steinman. Please RSVP to Marcie at 416.487.3281 or e-mail education@templesinai.net.

Registration is required.
Cost: $10 for dinner.

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Duh! We’re moving from peoplehood to purpose

I spotted the following article online.

Communal ties lacking for young Jewish professionals, study shows

November 10, 2010

NEW ORLEANS, La. (JTA) — A new survey shows that younger Jewish professionals are less committed to the Jewish collective than their elders.

The results of the survey of about 2,500 self-identified Jewish community professionals were released this week in New Orleans at the General Assembly of the Jewish Federations of North America.

Most Jewish communal professionals grew up with two Jewish parents, had strong Jewish educational backgrounds and spent time in Israel, noted sociologist Steven M. Cohen, who did the pro bono research for the project. He called those factors “strong predictors” of later Jewish engagement.

Women make up two-thirds of all Jewish communal professionals, their median age is 48, and they are paid on average $20,000 less per year than men in comparable positions, according to the survey commissioned by the Jewish Communal Service Association of America.

Among those under 34, the survey showed 28 percent had been on Birthright programs, a higher percentage than one would expect among young Jews in general, Cohen said. That indicates a correlation between participation in Birthright and choosing a career in the Jewish community.

But despite that Israel experience and their strong Jewish backgrounds, these young professionals, like their peers not in communal work, have lower levels of commitment than their older colleagues to what he calls the “Jewish collective,” including Jewish peoplehood, Israel and a sense of Jewish “community.”

The take-away from that, Cohen said, is that the Jewish community cannot count on this generation’s continued engagement on the basis of group loyalty. Their Jewish involvement has to be earned, and Jewish professionals who understand that — their peers — will serve them better than older leaders.

“We’re going through a transition from peoplehood to purpose,” he posited. “Younger Jewish professionals are part of the purpose-driven generation.”

The survey was conducted in the fall of 2009 by the Berman Jewish Policy Archive at New York University’s Robert F. Wagner Graduate School of Public Service.

Yes I know the title of this blog is not necessarily the most sophisticated reaction, however, I do not think that the trends in this study should be a surprise to anyone.  Someone, we will call her me, wrote a sermon about the narrative challenge facing the Jewish community and I think this studies findings are demonstrative of my point which was/is, the Jewish community must re-embrace our collective narrative, the Exodus narrative, because it is that story which outlines our purpose.  Organizations and individuals who are stuck on remembering the more recent past are not serving anyone.

Fear does not mobilize the community, as effective as it might be in fundraising.  The Jewish people have a unique purpose in this world thanks to our textual tradition.  We are told to remember that we were slaves in Egypt in order to serve the Jewish and global community through acts of tzedakah raising, which I would translate here as justice.  Jews are repeatedly called to ensure that there is a sense of justice in the world because of our collective memory of enslavement and redemption.

It worries me that this is so surprising and that this study of Jewish communal professionals is ringing some type of alarm. (Let’s ring the alarm at the pay disparity and the uneven gender divide instead!)

What do you think?  Are you surprised by this article?

 

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Do you like me?

I don’t actually care what the answer is.  I’m just hoping that you will go to my new facebook page, Rabbi Eleanor Steinman.  You just have to ‘like’ me and I will be the happiest person and it will help me streamline my facebook page.

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I still miss you every day

Dear Grandma,

Grandma, THE DIVA and I circle 1984(?)
Grandma, THE DIVA and me circa 1985(?)
Today marks ten years on the Hebrew calendar since you died.  Even writing the words brings tears to my eyes.  So much has happened for all of us, our family, and we’ve all grown up in ways you couldn’t even begin to imagine.  I miss you every single day.  I have a picture of you, Papa, Mar-Mar and I from my high school graduation on my desk and I see it, sometimes just for a split second, and it makes me smile.  I miss you a lot.  I miss the touch of your skin, so soft and cool.  I miss your smile. I feel so grateful that I have so many wonderful memories that I can call upon when I do miss you.
I know that death is a part of life.  Believe me, I know that.  That doesn’t make it any easier that you live in my memories.  At the same time I feel so blessed.  You were a part of my life for 20+ years and taught me that no matter what choices I made, whatever I would end up doing for a career I was loved.  Purely.  Unconditionally.
Last night I lit a yahertzeit candle for you.  I know it isn’t traditional for a grandchild, but I’m not exactly the most tradition of grandchildren.  I know that my parents observe the English date of your death.  I don’t know about everyone else.  For me, Rosh Chodesh Kislev is always easier to remember.  And don’t worry, I choose to mark your birthday, December 18, in a very special way.  No matter what.  I have a scoop of Pralines and Cream ice cream from Baskin Robbins in your honor (and only because they don’t make Ralph’s kona coffee anymore).
Grandma, I’m not really sure what happens after a person dies.  I don’t particularly need to know either.  One thing that brings me comfort, though, is knowing that you and Papa are somehow together again.  That’s at least how it works in my mind.  I know that after you died Papa missed you every single day. The two of you are a matched set.  Grandma and Papa.  Grandma and Papa.  You just went so well together.
You would also be really happy to know that all of your children and grandchildren still get along.  Heck, we even like each other almost all the time.  We travel to be together for important occasions.  Thanks to technology that you could not even begin to imagine we even get to see pictures of one another and know about lots of interesting things.
I still treasure that it got to be me that made you a grandmother.
I love you forever,
EBS
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