Did I act too quickly?

If you are a busy social media user like I am, you probably have an Instagram account (BTW if you are a parent of a tween or teen you probably should have one because your kid probably does, too!). You also probably saw this article that basically said Instagram is changing their terms of service and can see your pictures to advertisers without your knowledge. It took less than 24-hours for Instagram to change their ways. Today this story was in the New York Times.

I deleted my private Instagram account on Monday. (Private means you had to request permission and I had to approve you in order to see my photos). My question today is, did I act too quickly? I like Instagram. I think it is fun to see pictures of my friends and their children that don’t always make it to Facebook.

California Faith for Equality has an Instagram account (that I use with our social media guru).

So what shall I do, dear reader? Should I sign up for Instagram again or just move on? No seriously, I’m asking and taking a poll!

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Happy Chanukah!

dreidel jokeHappy Chanukah! I hope that those readers who celebrate Chanukah are having a joyous celebration!

Whether or not you celebrate Chanukah December 2012 is also an important time for giving to organizations that support values we share. As you know, I started working as the Executive Director of California Faith for Equality in July. This organization works tirelessly to support, educate and mobilize California’s faith communities to promote equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people. This work is inspiring, important and I hope you will join me in supporting California Faith for Equality. To donate, click on the logo of CF4E below that will lead you to a secure donation page.

May the beauty of the Chanukah lights inspire every human being to work towards peace and equality for all.

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What did you learn in Civics?

Remember high school? While I try to forget it as much as possible, there are some things that I can’t forget.

Unfortunately, it seems one of the easily forgotten subjects was Civics or Government. I don’t even remember what the class was called though I think maybe I took it in 10th grade?

Anyway, as you might know (and if you follow me on Facebook and Twitter you surely do) the Supreme Court is currently holding (and might have just conferenced today) Hollingsworth v. Perry, formerly Perry v. Brown aka the Prop 8 Case.

So I was writing before the Supreme Court conference concluded and we learned that yes, the Supreme Court will hear Hollingsworth v. Perry likely in March.

On with my rant. In my position with California Faith for Equality it didn’t take long to realize that I know basically nothing about how the justice system really works. So in the spirit of education being better than what I received, I would encourage the curriculum around civics to change. How fantastic could it be if instead of reading out of some dry government textbook (yes I remember a textbook) students used the current research modalities available and followed one case through the court system. It could be a historic case from another period of time like Brown v. Board of Education, any case, really. I can just guarantee you that type of curriculum would have been much more useful to me.

What do you remember from high school civics?

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Won’t you give?

In the “spirit of the season”, the season of Black Friday and Cyber Monday today is deemed Giving Tuesday. As you might know (and you might since this blog post got the most hits ever), I work for California Faith for Equality, an organization that mobilizes, supports and educates faith communities and faith leaders to promote equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people and support religious freedom. I hope you will consider CF4E as a recipient of your generosity on this Giving Tuesday. You can donate here.

Thank you!

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Remembering far too many to name…

From California Faith for Equality‘s blog and written by yours truly:

Today, Tuesday, November 20th is Transgender Day of Remembrance.

California Faith for Equality remembers and honors the countless people who are transgender who have died.

Prayer for Transgender Day of Remembrance by Rabbi Reuben Zellman
God full of mercy, bless the souls of all who are in our hearts on this Transgender Day of 
Remembrance. We call to mind today young and old, of every race, faith, and gender experience, who have died by violence. We remember those who have died because they would not hide, or did not pass, or did pass, or stood too proud. Today we name them: the reluctant activist; the fiery hurler of heels; the warrior for quiet truth; the one whom no one really knew.


As many as we can name, there are thousands more whom we cannot, and for whom no 
Kaddish [Jewish memorial prayer] may have been said. We mourn their senseless deaths, and give thanks for their lives, for their teaching, and for the brief glow of each holy flame. We pray for the strength to carry on their legacy of vision, bravery, and love.


And as we remember them, we remember with them the thousands more who have taken 
their own lives. We pray for resolve to root out the injustice, ignorance, and cruelty that grow despair. And we pray, God, that all those who perpetrate hate and violence will speedily come to understand that Your creation has many faces, many genders, many holy expressions.

Blessed are they, who have allowed their divine image to shine in the world.

Blessed is God, in Whom no light is extinguished.

Found on the KESHET website

May the memory of the transgender people whose names we know and whose names be a blessing.

 

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Today…

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Today is the Hebrew anniversary (yartzeit) of MY MOM’s death. Last night I lit the yartzeit candle and gave thanks to the Holy One for the blessing of MY MOM’s life. Her life was cut short too soon, but gratitude for the time we did have overwhelms me today.

I love you, Mom.

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Light one candle…

GRANDMA, THE DIVA, and me

1 Kislev, today on the Hebrew calendar, marks the 12th yartzeit (anniversary) of my GRANDMA’s death.

Today I choose to remember my GRANDMA as the woman who could get down on one knee to pose for a picture in awesome 1980s clothes.

The GRANDMA who was the definition of a picky eater and from whom legendary stories exist about taking Kentucky Fried Chicken (it wasn’t KFC then) out of the bucket and serving it on fine silver platters.

The GRANDMA who LOVED to shop. She made some fine purchases, too. I still wear the robe she bought me at least 15 years ago.

The GRANDMA who loved me unconditionally and I know would be SO PROUD of all of the work that I am doing to make the world better (and you can be sure she would LOVE to tell you that I’m a rabbi).

I love you GRANDMA.

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730 days…

MY MOM in August 2008 appreciating the thumb holes in her new sweatshirt.

730 days ago MY MOM died. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her sometimes remembering times gone by, other times angry at her for dying (I didn’t say I was rational only human), often just missing the sound of her voice, her smile…

On the 5th of Kislev I will light a yartzeit candle in your memory but today can’t go by without remembering, too.

I love you and will miss you forever Mom.

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What a night!

This post was written by yours truly on the California Faith for Equality blog…

Congratulations, Mr. President on your re-election.

Congratulations newly elected and first openly lesbian senator from Wisconsin, Tammy Baldwin.

You did it Maine. In approximately two months same-sex couples will have the freedom to marry.
We applaud the tremendous work of all of those who worked tirelessly to make this dream a reality.

Maryland, too, stood up,for equality becoming the second state to vote for equality.

Washington state passed the freedom to marry for same-sex couples.

And Minnesota, you voted down a constitutional amendment that would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman.  Yesterday, you became the first state to vote against such an amendment.  What a wonderful spot you will forever hold in the history of our nation.

Do you hear that sound? It is the sound of justice for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people ringing in our country.

God bless America.

There is also an exciting event happening on Thursday. Information is available here.

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Do you know someone in Minnesota?

Do you know someone who lives in Minnesota? More specifically, do you know someone who votes in Minnesota? PLEASE CONTACT THEM AND URGE THEM TO VOTE NO ON THE MARRIAGE AMENDMENT! You can find more specific talking points here. In fact the entire Minnesotans United for All Families site is pretty fantastic.

As you might know, I spent my teen age years in a suburb of St. Paul and make several trips a year to Minnesota to visit my friends and family (as far away from the winter months as possible, of course). Therefore I will take tremendous pride when Minnesota (God willing joined by Maine, Maryland and Washington) becomes a state that stands up for equality for all her citizens!

(Also read this interesting article by Tom Friedman, a Minnesotan, in the New York Times.

And meanwhile, back in California, we wait for the Supreme Court…

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