Remembering far too many to name…

From California Faith for Equality‘s blog and written by yours truly:

Today, Tuesday, November 20th is Transgender Day of Remembrance.

California Faith for Equality remembers and honors the countless people who are transgender who have died.

Prayer for Transgender Day of Remembrance by Rabbi Reuben Zellman
God full of mercy, bless the souls of all who are in our hearts on this Transgender Day of 
Remembrance. We call to mind today young and old, of every race, faith, and gender experience, who have died by violence. We remember those who have died because they would not hide, or did not pass, or did pass, or stood too proud. Today we name them: the reluctant activist; the fiery hurler of heels; the warrior for quiet truth; the one whom no one really knew.


As many as we can name, there are thousands more whom we cannot, and for whom no 
Kaddish [Jewish memorial prayer] may have been said. We mourn their senseless deaths, and give thanks for their lives, for their teaching, and for the brief glow of each holy flame. We pray for the strength to carry on their legacy of vision, bravery, and love.


And as we remember them, we remember with them the thousands more who have taken 
their own lives. We pray for resolve to root out the injustice, ignorance, and cruelty that grow despair. And we pray, God, that all those who perpetrate hate and violence will speedily come to understand that Your creation has many faces, many genders, many holy expressions.

Blessed are they, who have allowed their divine image to shine in the world.

Blessed is God, in Whom no light is extinguished.

Found on the KESHET website

May the memory of the transgender people whose names we know and whose names be a blessing.

 

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Today…

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Today is the Hebrew anniversary (yartzeit) of MY MOM’s death. Last night I lit the yartzeit candle and gave thanks to the Holy One for the blessing of MY MOM’s life. Her life was cut short too soon, but gratitude for the time we did have overwhelms me today.

I love you, Mom.

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Light one candle…

GRANDMA, THE DIVA, and me

1 Kislev, today on the Hebrew calendar, marks the 12th yartzeit (anniversary) of my GRANDMA’s death.

Today I choose to remember my GRANDMA as the woman who could get down on one knee to pose for a picture in awesome 1980s clothes.

The GRANDMA who was the definition of a picky eater and from whom legendary stories exist about taking Kentucky Fried Chicken (it wasn’t KFC then) out of the bucket and serving it on fine silver platters.

The GRANDMA who LOVED to shop. She made some fine purchases, too. I still wear the robe she bought me at least 15 years ago.

The GRANDMA who loved me unconditionally and I know would be SO PROUD of all of the work that I am doing to make the world better (and you can be sure she would LOVE to tell you that I’m a rabbi).

I love you GRANDMA.

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730 days…

MY MOM in August 2008 appreciating the thumb holes in her new sweatshirt.

730 days ago MY MOM died. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her sometimes remembering times gone by, other times angry at her for dying (I didn’t say I was rational only human), often just missing the sound of her voice, her smile…

On the 5th of Kislev I will light a yartzeit candle in your memory but today can’t go by without remembering, too.

I love you and will miss you forever Mom.

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What a night!

This post was written by yours truly on the California Faith for Equality blog…

Congratulations, Mr. President on your re-election.

Congratulations newly elected and first openly lesbian senator from Wisconsin, Tammy Baldwin.

You did it Maine. In approximately two months same-sex couples will have the freedom to marry.
We applaud the tremendous work of all of those who worked tirelessly to make this dream a reality.

Maryland, too, stood up,for equality becoming the second state to vote for equality.

Washington state passed the freedom to marry for same-sex couples.

And Minnesota, you voted down a constitutional amendment that would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman.  Yesterday, you became the first state to vote against such an amendment.  What a wonderful spot you will forever hold in the history of our nation.

Do you hear that sound? It is the sound of justice for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people ringing in our country.

God bless America.

There is also an exciting event happening on Thursday. Information is available here.

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Do you know someone in Minnesota?

Do you know someone who lives in Minnesota? More specifically, do you know someone who votes in Minnesota? PLEASE CONTACT THEM AND URGE THEM TO VOTE NO ON THE MARRIAGE AMENDMENT! You can find more specific talking points here. In fact the entire Minnesotans United for All Families site is pretty fantastic.

As you might know, I spent my teen age years in a suburb of St. Paul and make several trips a year to Minnesota to visit my friends and family (as far away from the winter months as possible, of course). Therefore I will take tremendous pride when Minnesota (God willing joined by Maine, Maryland and Washington) becomes a state that stands up for equality for all her citizens!

(Also read this interesting article by Tom Friedman, a Minnesotan, in the New York Times.

And meanwhile, back in California, we wait for the Supreme Court…

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Happy birthday, Dad!

Me, MY DAD, and THE DIVA at his birthday party

Happy birthday to the best father I have ever had! Today you turn 70! Good news, you don’t look a day over 55. I hope that your day is filled with lots of fun, laughter, and smiles. It was wonderful to be able to celebrate you over the weekend. I love you very much.

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Confession – I cannot do a pull up

Confession – I cannot do a pull up or a chin up.

Every year during gym class I felt like a failure because there was no hope for me doing a pull up as part of the government’s physical fitness test. According to “Why Women Can’t Do Pull Ups” in the New York Times there might be legitimate reasons.

In addition to the fact that I am 5’9″, today I confess that I am not in the best of shape. When I lived in the T-Dot I was working out regularly with a trainer and did countless repetitions on the assisted pull up/chin up machine. I did develop those muscles but I still needed to use the weights to help me. It is my own goal to work on that more seriously (yes I have a plan, no I will not share it here). In the mean time, I take some comfort in knowing that my lack of pull up prowess might be more complicated than I thought.

 

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Sh’ma Smackdown – a re-post from WRJ

This post comes from the Women of Reform Judaism’s blog on October 24 found here.

by Rabbi Marla J. Feldman

Much has been written in recent days about the arrest of Anat Hoffman, executive director of the Reform Movement’s Israel Religious Action Center, at the Kotel while wearing a tallit and saying Sh’ma with Women of the Wall and Hadassah. There have been articles, websites, and petitions offered by many groups and individuals, each responding in their own way.

 

WRJ also has expressed our outrage at Anat’s treatment and joined the chorus of women’s groups and other progressive voices calling for a change in policy by the authorities who manage this historic site. Reform women want Anat and Women of the Wall to know that we stand in solidarity with them and will raise our voices on their behalf.

But we need to do more. If government officials in any other corner of the world tried to prevent us from praying in our own voice, wearing our chosen ritual garb or worshipping freely, we would not be silent. We certainly will not tolerate it from Jewish extremists who have been empowered by the government of Israel to wrest control of our holiest site. The Kotel belongs to the entire Jewish people: women and men, Orthodox and secular and everything in between. We will use every tool at our disposal to secure the rights of all Jews to pray freely wherever they are – including in Israel, including at the Western Wall.

So, I hope you will join women worldwide in the WRJ Sh’ma Smackdown. Create a video of you, your friends, or your sisterhood saying the Sh’ma. Take a photo with the words of the Sh’ma prayer. Send your videos and photos to us at womenofreformjudaism@gmail.com so we can compile them and post them on the WRJ Facebook page. Comment on this blog post, “like” our Facebook page, and forward this message to others.

Let’s make sure the women fighting for our rights in Israel as well as Israeli government officials hear our voices unified by this message: If anyone tries to diminish our rights or silence our voices, we will respond.

And our response is this:

Hear, O Israel. Hear our voices raised in prayer. Hear our voices declare that the God of Israel is our God. Hear our voices make known God’s message to the world. As long as there is breath in our lungs we will proclaim God’s name – out loud. We will not be silenced. 

Hear us, O Israel. Through our tears of anger and anguish, with joy and love for our people, despite our outrage and indignation, hear our voice.

God says, “Cry with a full throat, do not hold back; let your voice resound like a shofar!”  (Isaiah 58:1)

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Arrest at the Western Wall


Jewish tradition that we have entered into mar Cheshvan, bitter Cheshvan (the new Jewish month that started Tuesday night) because this month has no holidays. Last night we entered mar Cheshvan because of the horrific events that occurred at the Western Wall.

From the stories I read, Anat Hoffman (who I wrote about here was arrested for reciting the Shema and wearing a prayer shawl. I don’t even believe the words as I type them. Anat was arrested for reciting the central text of the Jewish people aloud. The latest article I could find is here. There is also a report written by the Director of the Israel Religious Action Center including a video here.

Anat was treated terribly while in prison overnight. She is now at home recovering.

Now, more than ever, the Israel Religious Action Center and Women of the Wall need our support. I hope you will join me in giving them a gift to support the important work they do for all people.

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