Women of the Wall

Today is Rosh Chodesh Av. I’m writing this post after attempting to pray at the Kotel (Western Wall) this morning with Women of the Wall, an organization I’ve written about and prayed with many times. (I’m also typing this on my iPhone so please forgive the lack of hyperlinks and any mistakes. I will fix them at a later time).

My morning started at 5:30 with a blaring alarm. I needed to be at Liberty Bell park to get on the bus with Women of the Wall. Last week I saw a tweet from Women of the Wall that said registration was necessary as coming together would be the only way the police could guarantee security. Ie we needed a police escort to the Kotel. I arrived and saw many colleagues and friends, male and female. 2 announcements were made. First a request not to take pictures during the prayers and not to talk to reporters during prayer. We then boarded buses. There were probably 350 people or so based solely on the number of buses.

We had a police escort directly to the entrance/drop off of the Kotel. We are talking all traffic being stopped for us and if you have ever traveled in Jerusalem you might imagine this is no small thing. Closer to the entrance there were blue police gates keeping people from blocking our way. It was hard to describe the sense of the police and army protecting us. Completely opposite of my previous experiences.

We entered the security area of the plaza and were pretty much waved through. But we could not get near the Kotel. We were basically confronted with the blue police gates with hundreds of Haredi (ultra-Orthodox) men on the other side. I put on my Tallit and the morning service started. The Haredim screamed, sang, blew whistles and did everything imaginable to disrupt the prayer service. It was very difficult to hear the leader.

It is hard to even describe this to you. The vitriol spewing from other Jews. Being so far away from the Kotel (I didn’t know why yet) was weird and then the eggs started flying. Two of my colleagues, Rabbi Sari Laufer and Rabbi Amy Small were hit by eggs. Fortunately they were not hurt. Young haredi women stood not far away and were mocking people wearing Tallit and tefillin (phylacteries).

The Torah service started. There was no Torah scroll. I’m not one hundred percent certain why not, but I think it has to do with the ongoing negotiations. The first reading was done by a young woman who became a Bat Mitzvah. She became the third generation of women in her family to do so. This was a beautiful moment. A chair was brought in to lift her and celebrate this moment in her life. In the whole experience this was the only joyful moment (there was still whistling and jeering from the Haredim).

The service continued and I decided to take a walk to see what was going on and maybe take some more pictures. I was standing at the back of the group. I learned from others that we couldn’t go to the Kotel because thousands of young Haredi women were bused in at 5am to stand in the women’s section and crowd the Kotel plaza so there was no room for Women of the Wall. I felt more nauseated.

The worst was yet to come.

The service ended. Anat Hoffman stood on a chair and led the group in the singing of Hatikvah, the hope, the national anthem of the State of Israel. The haredim, men and women started screaming louder than ever before. Blowing whistles and behaving in a disgusting manner.

We got back on buses in an orderly fashion and went back to Liberty Bell Park. I still am reeling and feeling.

There is so much work to be done, my friends.

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Are you ready?

June has arrived. Many anticipate that some time this month (probably on a Monday or any day the last week of the month) the Supreme Court will issue rulings on Proposition 8 and DOMA. Confused about what the possible outcome(s) might be? Lambda Legal has come to the rescue with this extremely thorough and intelligible inforgraphic.

 

 

You can read more about it on the Lambda Legal blog.

Thank you Lambda Legal for this amazing resource!

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Dreams do come true

Fleetwood Mac is my favorite band. I always wanted to hear them in concert. Tuesday night I got to!

Stevie Nicks and Lindsey Buckingham perform "Landslide"

Stevie Nicks and Lindsey Buckingham perform “Landslide”

MY DAD loves to repeat the following father/daughter interaction (I think I was a senior in high school):

Me: Dad. I discovered this new band. They’re amazing.

Dad: Really?

Me: Yeah. They’ve been around for a while. They’re called Fleetwood Mac and they have this incredible album called Rumours.

Dad: (hysterically laughing for at least five minutes) So it is a new band? (More hysterical laughter)

Me: Yes. I said it was new to me. Not new. Have you ever heard of them.

Dad: (More hysterical laughter) Yes. The album is downstairs.

When MY DAD retells this conversation he continues to insert the hysterical laughter just from the memory of this conversation.

Anyway, last night I got to see Fleetwood Mac in concert and it was AMAZING.

This was the set list:

Second Hand News

The Chain

Dreams (see how clever the title of this blog post is?)

Sad Angel (new)

Rhiannon

Not that Funny

Tusk

Sara

Big Love

Neve Going Back Again

Landslide

Never Going Back Again (slow)

Without You (new)

Gypsy

Eyes of the World

Gold Dust Woman

I’m So Afraid

Stand Back (Stevie Nicks solo album song)

Go Your Own Way

(Encore 1) Big Worlds Turning (including amazing Mick Fleetwood drum solo)

Don’t Stop

(Encore 2) Silver Spring

Say Goodbye

I told you I was a serious fan. (I’d never written down a set list from a concert while the concern was happening and now I know I never have to do so thanks to google).

They played for two and a half hours without break. Lindsey Buckingham is a phenomenal guitar player. If you’ve never seen him live, find a YouTube video or something. Mick Fleetwood and John McVie were amazing on drums and bass, respectively though I didn’t expect anything less. Stevie Nicks was good, not great. It seemed like she was having trouble hearing and sometimes lyrics were a bit off from the rest of the group. The band’s energy was awesome. I’m still singing their songs days later.

Dreams do come true.

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Today I am a proud Minnesotan!

MN senate victoryThe governor is set to sign the bill tomorrow afternoon making Minnesota the 12th state (13 places when you include Washington, DC) where the freedom to marry exists.

 

 

 

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Waiting for Marriage Equality: A Prayer

My blog post for today can be found here.

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Remember

Today is Yom HaShoah, the day that the world remembers the Holocaust.

Below is one of the most powerful images I have ever seen because it describes in a single image what was taken away by the destructive powers of hate, fear, bigotry and ignorance.

 

And finally, as I remember today, I share this poem.

Written in Pencil in the Sealed Boxcar

Dan Pagis

 

Here in this [sealed] shipment (transport)

I [am] Eve

With Abel my son

If you see my older son

Cain the son of Adam

Tell him that I

 

From  Burnnshaw, Stanley, T. Carmi, Susan Glassman, Ariel Hirschfeld, and Ezra Spicehandler, editors. The Modern Hebrew Poem Itself: A new and updated edition. Detroit: Wayne State University Press, 2003. P. 221.

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Alef is for Alien

Alef is for Alien by Rabbi Michael Sommer and Illustrated by Eric Winter

Alef is for Alien by Rabbi Michael Sommer and Illustrated by Eric Winter

I am very excited to share a new resource for those of you readers who teach, parent, babysit, or ever encounter young people who could/should/would learn Hebrew. My colleague Rabbi Michael Sommer (aka Abba Sababa) has written an awesome book and Eric Winter has done amazing illustrations for an e-book now available on the iTunes store called Alef is for Alien. You can download this book (for the iBook app only at present) here.

The book is awesome. On every page you can hear the pronunciation of a Hebrew letter and there are VERY unique words that begin with each letter that also can be heard. (Hey is for Holographic Alien Signal, for example). At the end there is a beautiful image of all of the letters that could be used for recognition and review.

The illustrations in this book are amazing. I’m not a huge reader of children’s literature (though when I read aloud to a child I always include voices), but these are top-notch.

If my stellar review wasn’t enough of a reason for you to spend $4.99 to purchase this book, maybe the reason behind this collaboration will be, Superman Sam.

I am glad that I have this book on my iPad for the next time a young person is around and they want to read an age-appropriate book or I need to assist a young person (or ADULT) in a review of the letters of the Hebrew alef-bet and vowel sounds!

Download this book. You will be glad that you did!

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A Waiting Psalm

As we await news from the Supreme Court decision, I’ve prepared a psalm interpretation. You can find it here on the California Faith for Equality blog.

Please share! (with appropriate citation)

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Why all the red matters to me

It has been quite a week. For me personally and our country as the Supreme Court heard oral arguments in both the Prop 8 and DOMA cases. (You can read my report from DC here)  Oh yeah and it is Passover and Holy Week, too.

And then there was the big surprise.

Human Rights Campaign changed their typically blue and yellow logo to red in support of marriage equality and the image went viral. On Wednesday I read a report that said the image was shared at least 43,000 times. (See and read an analysis on the HRC site of the change)

So what?

Personally this sea of red was incredibly moving to me. In the process of coming out to myself I made LOTS of false assumptions about how people might respond. I was scared and felt alone. Once I completed the most difficult task, coming out to myself, and then shared the information with my family and friends I was only welcomed with acceptance and love. I have not lost one friend or significant relationship with anyone I care about because I am a lesbian. I remember the tear-filled coming out conversation with MY SISTER when she said something like, “I’ve known you were a lesbian since you were 15.” To which I responded in hysterical tears, “Why didn’t you tell me! It would have been so much easier!” Even as I type those words I can hear her laughter at how ridiculous that was. Coming out was my own journey, my own process. Not one that anyone could speed up or slow down.

I wonder what it must feel like to the person still in the closet to see their friends and family, allies and LGBT, affirming that they are supportive in a subtle yet very public way. I assure you, that red symbol made a difference.

My colleague, Rabbi Mark Kaiserman, wrote this on his Facebook wall about why the sea of red matters:

Why changing the profile photo does matter.

As your timeline filled with notes about people changing their profile photo to red squares with 2 stripes (including the matzah and Yoda), many scoffed. “Why does it matter? Is the Supreme Court checking Facebook?

But it does matter.

The arguments for equality in marriage are at this exciting moment of possibility because public opinion has changed. When DOMA was signed, only 25% of Americans supported legal same sex marriage. Now it is more the 50%.

If you are seeing the flood of profile changes, it reinforces that your Fb friends are pro-equality and freedom. It helps influence those still on the fence. And it shows incredible support and solidarity with every GLBT individual and couple currently denied the right to marry by the Federal government.

This is a the same show of unity that you find going to a sports event with everyone in the same color, or a breast cancer walk with everyone in pink, or even people wearing green for St. Patrick Day. You can still support the cause without the “colors”. But this is a way to show it electronically. It is our digital community coming together for freedom and I am grateful to every person who has made the temporary switch.

I couldn’t agree more.

So though changing a profile picture to red might just be passive activism it does make a difference. And because I’m the Executive Director of an organization that is trying to make a difference EVERY DAY, if you want to move from passive to active support, here is a link to California Faith for Equality’s site where your secure, tax-deductible contribution will make a big difference. 

Thank you for making a difference.

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What did you do for Passover?

It is somewhat difficult to reflect on all that transpired in the last 36 hours. There have been many other times in my life when I felt that my feet were praying, as Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel describes, but this was different.

I arrived in Washington, DC on Monday evening and went directly to a rabbinic colleague’s family seder. As much as it was different from seders I’ve attended in the past it was also exactly the same, the beauty of Jewish ritual. It was a wonderful evening with delicious food, spirited conversation and lively singing. Though I didn’t actually want to leave, I knew that an early morning was rapidly approaching on Tuesday.

On Tuesday I was a participant in the Interfaith Prayer Service that started at 7:30am in advance of the rally at the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS). The call time was 6:45 and for this Californian, that was VERY early.

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The service itself was wonderful. There were representatives from 15 faith groups, awesome singing and a volunteer choir. As you know, my work with California Faith for Equality started in July and I was a bit awe-struck to be participating in worship with people like Bishop Gene Robinson and fellow Californian, Bishop Yvette Flunder. In the planning for this moment, there was some worry that a service would be planned and no one would come. I’m happy to report that the church was full!

Rev. Karen Rasmussen and I

Rev. Karen Rasmussen and I

Rev. Rebecca Voelkel and I before the service starts

Rev. Rebecca Voelkel and I before the service starts

Opening rituals included Buddhist chanting

Opening rituals included Buddhist chanting

DSC_0065At the service’s conclusion, the faith leaders led the group to the site in front of SCOTUS where the rally was taking place. Somehow I ended up in the front holding the banner (I hope to find some pictures somewhere) and was grateful for my coat on a crisp, clear DC morning. There were thousands of people outside rallying for marriage equality. The call to wear red clearly was in effect and there were a wide variety of signs in support of the freedom to marry. It was all a little overwhelming!

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The only moments of contention occurred when those against freedom to marry marched through (this was a transparent plan and the capital police were prepared as were the marriage equality organizers). I describe the scene and you can see it for yourself in this vlog.

I didn’t take any pictures of the opposition (though you can see a lot of what was going on twitter (see the history for @rabbisteinman), California Faith for Equality’s Facebook page (that you should ‘like’ while you’re there), and at California Faith for Equality’s Instagram.

There were several moments when the crowd went wild. One of the most noticeable being when the plaintiffs and attorneys exited the court. I tried to capture a few pictures.

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DSC_0188One of the rally highlights for me personally was hearing Rabbi Denise Eger’s passion-filled words that beautifully linked the messages of Passover to the moments we were living. It was no accident that SCOTUS hearing Prop 8 and DOMA occurred on the first two days of Passover. You can hear Rabbi Eger’s words here.

DSC_0238DSC_0403Many people came up to me or when we passed by one another they wished me a “Chag Sameach, a Happy Passover.” (I was wearing a prayer shawl (tallit) and kippah). Many of my rabbinic colleagues were not able to necessarily attend the rally because they were leading Passover morning worship services at their synagogue. I’m grateful to be in a position where I could worship God and celebrate the Exodus from Egypt by participating in the great liberation movement of our day. Whatever the nine justices of the Supreme Court rule, the freedom to marry and the end of DOMA is coming.

parting the waters sederAfter a few hours of rest and updating social media, it was time to head over to Parting the Waters: A Prop 8 Passover at the headquarters of Human Rights Campaign. I had the privilege of leading this Seder with Rabbi Denise Eger! A small group of people ably led by Joanna Blotner put together this unbelievable evening. Knowing the confluence of Passover and the SCOTUS cases, Joanna saw this as an opportunity to link the clear themes of the exodus from Egypt to the freedom to marry. She and her committee put together a unique haggadah (prayerbook for the Seder meal), and invited faith leaders and anyone interested. The room was packed with at least 110 people and I know there was a waiting list! For some, this was their first-ever Passover Seder experience. There were so many highlights to the Seder, a variety of faith-leaders leading readings and participating, the celebratory vibe in the room, the number of young adult Jews participating (any 20-30s event planners dream), and perhaps the best–the only child in the room able to find the afikomen (there was also a baby) actually found the afikomen!

I didn’t take a lot of pictures of the seder (I was busy leading it) but people were tweeting along! Check #partingthewater for all of the fun!

And though Tuesday was chock full of events, there was another rally on Wednesday!

After a good night’s sleep (believe me it was MUCH needed), I made my way to SCOTUS. Wednesday’s rally against DOMA was also packed and so interesting in different kinds of ways. It was an even colder, crisp morning and the energy of the crowd was high. There were a variety of speakers and lots more signs of support. Many people that attended seder recognized me and said ‘Happy Passover’ and wanted to engage about the work that we all do together! It was awesome.

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After the rally, I grabbed a bite to eat and made my way to the airport. As I sit on the plane, I am joined by two of the plaintiffs of the original Prop 8 case, Jeff Zarillo and Paul Katami.

I can’t imagine a more fitting end to this Passover journey.

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