Spiritual refugees, come home

Below is the text of my sermon for Kol Nidre 5776.

Spiritual Refugees, Come Home

There was a woman, Madeline, born 1918 in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania and she loved sports. An active participant in athletics in ways that were considered appropriate for the era, Madeline especially loved baseball. Madeline was a Jewish girl who lost her mother very young. Her father ran a grocery supply company and she worked in the business when she was finished with school each day. And still, Madeline loved baseball. She met and fell in love with Robert, an aspiring chemist. After they were married, they moved to Champaign, Illinois so Robert could pursue a Ph.D. It wasn’t so easy to be a Jew in small town Illinois. From Champaign the young family moved to Newark, Ohio where Robert found a job after facing much anti-semitism in the hiring process. And still, Madeline loved baseball. Their first child was born in Ohio, followed by a second. A job prospect presented itself in Los Angeles and the family moved. And after a number of years, baseball came to Los Angeles. Madeline had a new baseball team, the Dodgers. Now, it happened on more than one occasion that baseball season and the High Holy Days overlapped and Madeline was faced with a conundrum. There were no recording devices, smartphones, or play-by-play after the game until the next day’s newspaper and this just wouldn’t do when there was a big game for Madeline. Not going to synagogue was not an option. Madeline and her husband and four sons were active members of the congregation and it wouldn’t do not to show up on the High Holy Days. Jews of Madeline’s generation showed up at synagogue. So Madeline crafted a solution. She clipped a small, battery operated radio to her skirt and ran a wire up the back of her blouse and an ear piece to her ear so that she could listen to her Dodgers and be at High Holy Day services. Everyone won. Madeline loved baseball and she loved being Jewish. And I loved her, because I didn’t call her Madeline, I called her Grandma.

This Yom Kippur is one for baseball lovers. It was 50 years ago tomorrow that the first game of the World Series was to take place in Minnesota, Dodgers against the Twins. The best pitcher in baseball was the Dodgers’ Sandy Koufax and he was scheduled to start.  There was just one problem: the first day of the World Series was Yom Kippur and Sandy Koufax is a Jew. The question on everyone’s mind was would Sandy Koufax pitch the opening game? The answer of course, was no. Koufax did not play, just as he didn’t play on Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur in the preceding ten years. And we know that he would pitch in games 2, 5 and 7 and win the Most Valuable Player in the series that the Dodgers won.

Sandy Koufax, already idolized as a great pitcher, became the hero of the Jewish community. ““There was no hard decision for me,” Koufax said later in an ESPN documentary… “It was just a thing of respect. I wasn’t trying to make a statement, and I had no idea that it would impact that many people.””[i] He showed every person that one could be a great baseball player AND an adherent of Jewish tradition. He was the ideal American Jew: assimilated yet faithful, athletic yet principled.

But Sandy Koufax was not the first great Jewish baseball player. Hank Greenberg, the Detroit Tigers first baseman also refused to play on Yom Kippur in 1934. 81 years ago the United States and the world was in the midst of the depression, anti-semitism was alive not only in the Weimar Republic, but the United States and Hank played in the heart of Henry Ford and Father Charles Coughlin territory, these were two were perhaps the most virulent anti-semites in the country at that time. But baseball fever hit the Motor City with the Tigers in the hunt for the pennant for the first time in 25 years and Hank Greenberg and his .339 batting average lead the way. The Tigers lost that Yom Kippur game and the next day, on the first-ever complete recording of a radio broadcast of a baseball game, “…Ty Tyson, the Detroit broadcaster, noted with a tinge of delight in his voice that Greenberg was back. “Hank was out yesterday observing Yom Kippur,” he said. “And I believe undoubtedly, his big bat was missed out there.””[ii]

These two great Jewish baseball players are the stuff of legends. But tonight, I want to talk with you about a different baseball player. This player, Caleb Summers, will be an MLB prospect in 2020. A lefty like Greenberg and Koufax, Caleb is already honing his skills. He plays baseball in every season, attends showcases, and meets regularly with a pitching coach, a hitting coach and somehow finds time to go to school, too. The problem is that Caleb is 13 and this year, 5776 should be the year Caleb is called to the Torah for the first time as a bar Mitzvah, except Caleb’s been too busy playing ball for Judaism. What if Caleb makes it to the majors and is confronted with the choice of observing Yom Kippur or pitching in the World Series? I shudder to think about the choice he might make. I worry for Caleb and the kids like him that we all know. Caleb is a spiritual refugee.[iii]

A spiritual refugee is a person who flees looking for a spiritual home, someone running from self-help book to self-help book, from EST to Landmark, from the latest workout craze to the next, or focuses on one activity almost to obsession in order to fill up the spiritual emptiness deep inside. Material possessions and casual relationships don’t fill the void. Neither do low ERAs, names in spotlights, or acceptance letters. Spiritual refugee adults do not have the skills and experiences necessary to have a sense of awe and wonder, mystery about the world, God or Judaism because they weren’t provided for us or we didn’t learn them. And now, we are raising a generation of children who are also lost because they are not learning these skills through studying and living their Judaism.

We all know a Caleb Summers. He or she might not play baseball, she might be a gymnast, or an aspiring actor or dancer, a soccer player, or a student so devoted to his studies only activities that will assure admission to an Ivy league school are permitted. Sports, music lessons, and scouting teach our children a lot of important skills and so does our Jewish tradition. It is time to set some priorities and Judaism must be one of them. Caleb might not always be able to throw a baseball 95 miles per hour, he will always be a Jew.

I see people like Caleb or his parents in my office all the time, often when I’m wearing my kippah as Director of Religious Education here at TBH. Just the other day Ruth came to my office to explain why her son will not be able to continue in religious school. Ruth’s son, a 2nd grader is already overwhelmed with homework and between soccer and scouting there are just too many extra-curricular activities and Religious School just isn’t important enough. While I am the first to admit that Religious School is not a perfect solution, it is better than nothing. Jewish tradition has much to teach about living a life of meaning, holiness and study and nourishing the soul. Every time a parent, grandparent, or member of our congregation says that religious school or membership at TBH is not a priority they’re joining the pilgrimage of refugees searching for the next best, most convenient thing. And every time this conversation takes place, it breaks my heart.

Last year I told you the story of another spiritual refugee, Franz Rosenzweig. On Kol Nidre 5674, 1913, Rosenzweig entered a small Orthodox synagogue in Berlin for what he expected to be the last time he would attend worship services as a Jew. Rosenzweig … had become convinced, as did many modern Germans of his day, that the path to success and acceptance in German life was as a Christian. He was raised, with modest exposure to Jewish life and Jewish learning. He viewed Judaism as an anachronism – a faith not in touch with the contemporary world of Western Europe. So he decided that he would attend Yom Kippur services to say farewell to his Jewish identity and the Jewish people.

Something entirely unexpected happened to Rosenzweig in that synagogue that night and it changed his life. He wrote a friend: “After prolonged, and I believe, thorough self-examination, I have reversed my decision … I will remain a Jew.”

What he thought he could find in the church only, faith that gives one orientation of the world, he found on that night in the synagogue. His refugee crisis was over. For the rest of his life, Rosenzweig devoted himself to Jewish study and teaching, and became one of the outstanding Jewish thinkers of the twentieth century.[iv]

Tonight, on the holiest night of the year we are sitting among spiritual refugees like Franz Rosenzweig and Caleb Summers, we might even be a spiritual refugee. People are here because someone, a parent, guilt, a partner, a sibling, a friend, brought you here, to this holy place and our sacred community, welcome.

Yom Kippur is the holiday of spiritual refugees because today we can begin anew and find our spiritual center. This is precisely what the prophet Jonah teaches us. Tomorrow afternoon we will hear his amazing story, but let me give you the Cliff’s Notes. Jonah ben Ammitai gets a call from God who tells him, “arise and go to Nineveh, that great city, and cry out against it, for their wickedness has come up before Me.”[v] Jonah shirked this responsibility and in an effort to get away from what he believes to be God’s dominion, he heads to Jaffa and gets on a boat headed for Tarshish. Once on the boat, the seas get terribly rough, so rocky that the sailors fear the boat will be ripped apart. Each of the fear-filled sailors prayed to his own god and started to throw overboard any extra cargo. In the midst of this tumult, Jonah goes down to the hold of the ship and falls asleep. He is awakened by the commotion of the sailors casting lots and Jonah is thrown overboard and the seas calm and Jonah is swallowed by a fish. He spends three days in the belly of the fish and after three days, offers a prayer of repentance. Jonah is spat out of the fish and ends up on dry land and then, the story starts over again. God calls to Jonah and this time Jonah responds as God requests. Come back tomorrow afternoon to find out how Jonah ends his refugee crisis.

The Book of Jonah teaches us each year that we have the power to end our own refugee crisis. If you were only planning on being with this community tonight, come back tomorrow. Open yourself up to the possibility of prayer, repentance, meditation and soul-stirring music.

If you used to be a member of TBH and now only purchase High Holy Day tickets, come home. Turn your ticket into membership. We need you. The Jewish people need you and we miss you. This congregation, the multitude of schools, programs, and learning opportunities need your physical, spiritual and financial support to continue providing for this generation and the next. If your children or grandchildren are of the right age, come to talk with me after Yom Kippur about signing them up for Religious School and make it a priority in the hectic weekly schedule. Remember they may not become an Olympian, but they will always be a Jew. Don’t we want our children and grandchildren have the skills to be successful mensches? To make choices like Rosenzweig, Greenberg and Koufax?

Most of all stop running away. Whether or not you believe in God or a higher power, or a force that connects all life in the universe or the whole God-thing doesn’t work for you, the Jewish people need you. We need you in our organizations and institutions to ensure that the beautiful communities we’ve constructed live on. We need you at our services and festivals to celebrate and comfort and live Jewishly. And we need you to be a proud Jew doing whatever it is you do professionally. Who knows? You might be the Hank Greenberg or Sandy Koufax of our generation.

My friends, on this holy night, may the gates of repentance be open for us so that we might be like Jonah the prophet and make true repentance. And may the Caleb Summers in our midst and in the circles of our communities find their way to the stories of Hank Greenberg and Sandy Koufax and my Grandma Madeline and the Jewish community and put an end to the spiritual refugee phenomenon.

G’mar chatimah tovah—May our names be sealed in the Book of Life.

Ken y’hi ratzon.

 

 

 

[i] http://www.jta.org/2015/09/08/life-religion/why-sandy-koufax-sitting-out-a-world-series-game-still-matters-50-years-later

[ii] http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/mlb/2015/09/17/sandy-koufax-yom-kippur-hank-greenberg/32549633/

[iii] This is a term that I created to describe the phenomenon of many spiritual seekers in our country today.

[iv]. Adapted from a beautiful sermon by Rabbi Howard Jaffe, http://www.templeisaiah.net/Resources/Sermons/Read_Sermons/ArticleId/168/Kol-Nidre-5774-2013-Rabbi-Howard-Jaffe.aspx.

[v] Jonah, 1:2.

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A letter to Theodor Herzl

Happy New Year! Please follow this link to read my Rosh Hashanah morning sermon.

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A Waiting Psalm, again

Yesterday the Supreme Court of the United States heard oral arguments about the freedom to marry in this country. Now, we wait. This is a psalm I crafted in 2013 when SCOTUS heard the Prop 8 and DOMA cases and again, we waited. Please share this with attribution as appropriate.

A Waiting Psalm (an interpretation of Psalm 118)

By Rabbi Eleanor Steinman

In the narrowness of waiting  I called upon the Source of Life; the Source answered me, and set me free.

God is on my side, the side of equality and justice; I will not fear; what can another human being do to me?

God takes my part with those who help me; therefore I shall gaze upon those who disagree with me.

For it is better to take refuge in the Eternal than to put confidence in human beings.

It is better to take refuge in God than to put confidence in those sitting upon thrones.

All naysayers surround me; but in the name of God I will not allow their rhetoric to enter my consciousness.

They surround me; indeed, they surround me; but in the name of God I will pay them no heed.

They surround me like bees; they are quenched like a fire of thorns; for in the name of the Holy One I will hold fast to my belief in equality for all

You, the one I disagree with, pushed me hard that I might fall; but God helps me.

The Eternal One is my strength and song, and my faith has become my salvation.

The voice of rejoicing and salvation is in the tents of the righteous; the right hand of God does bravely.

The right hand of God is exalted; the right hand of God fortifies me in this time of waiting.

You are my God, and I will praise you; you are my God, I will exalt you.

O give thanks to the Eternal One; for God is good; God’s loving kindness endures for ever.

Amen. Selah.

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This is the day the Eternal has made, let us rejoice in it 

The Psalmist wrote, “this is the day the Eternal has made, let us rejoice in it” (Ps. 118:24). 

Today at the CCAR convention has been dedicated to human rights. As part of raising awareness, there was Ali apanel to commemorate the 25th anniversary of the CCAR’s move to accept gay and lesbian rabbis. 25 years is both a long and short time. Rabbi Yoel Kahn opened a program called, “Celebrating change on the 25th anniversary of CCAR’s resolution on homosexuality and the rabbinate” with a history and a sharing of some of his own story while teaching Torah, his Torah. I hope that Rabbi Kahn’s words will be made available and published widely for they are and were completely inspiring, informative, and emotional.

This afternoon, Rev. Dr. William Barber II addressed the conference about a myriad of issues, voting rights, health care, mass incarceration, poverty, and the erosion of equal protection under the law. If you do not yet know about the moral Monday movement in North Carolina, time to do some research. 

The day also included a transitionin leadership of the conference. The new board was installed and Rabbi Denise L. Eger took on the mantle of the presidency of the conference. Rabbi Eger is a talented rabbi, a passionate preacher, and works tirelessly for human rigthts for all.  To say that I am proud is an understatement. המבין יבין – those who know, know. 

This was a day of much rejoicing.  I can’t wait for tomorrow.

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Sometimes, the rabbi plays basketball

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One of the many parts of being a rabbi that I love is that no two days are alike. Take yesterday, for example. I knew the elementary school basketball team had a 3:30 game scheduled and thought it would be nice to cheer them on (and stand outside and get out of my office). I made my way over the parking lot where basketball is played as the students were warming up for the game. Fast forward about ten minutes and it turns out the other team was not going to show. A forfeit. Go BHDS Bears!

It was somehow quickly determined that myself, the BHDS principal, a parent and the coach would join in since the referee was there and we would divide the adults and students and have a pickup game. While I was ill prepared, note the footwear in the photo above, it was so much fun. I got to spend time with the BHDS students, see how they used some of the important character traits we emphasize as a school, and I got to play basketball. We played two 20-minute halves and a good time was had by everyone!

(And there are now a pair of socks and sneakers in the trunk of my car for future basketball playing ’emergencies’).

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A silly story on a heavy news day

There are a lot of serious news stories that beg for comment. This blog post will not do that. Instead…

I’m left-handed. While I do many things as a lefty such as write; eat, throw, kick, peel vegetables, use a knife or scissors, there are lots of things I do right-handed (no I don’t know why). For example; swing a baseball bat, swing a golf club, and play the guitar (I’m no Paul McCartney).

For Chanukah I received a Fitbit. So far, I’ve found it a useful tool to increase my own awareness of how I sleep (I can be restless) and how much I move (not enough. I’d love a treadmill desk. Donations gratefully accepted). While some of the exercise I do at the gym (bike and my preferred elliptical) do not get “counted” because my arms don’t swing, I like that I can manually add my workout routine to the Fitbit app.

Yesterday I had a good, though rushed gym workout. I added my minutes into the Fitbit app during breakfast and went about my day. When I got home after Religious School I checked the app. I doubled my activity time after the gym! While I did get to walk around quite a bit yesterday visiting classes I remained perplexed.

“How did this happen,” I thought.

And then I relaxed it. I led T’filah and played the guitar, strumming away on my non-dominant, Fitbit wearing right arm. Activity minutes found!

So if you need more activity minutes in your busy day, my recommendation is to hit the gym OR play the guitar wearing your Fitbit.

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Four years

Dear MOM,

Tonight on the Jewish calendar marks 4 years since you died. It is hard to believe, four years. There are so many things to say and so many things I wish we could talk about, but those remain between you and me and not this blog.

It seems appropriate that the 5th of Kislev (your yartzeit) is also Thanksgiving. You loved this holiday. The huge meal, the lavish entertaining, the family and friends gathered together around the dinner table. Yeah presence is still missed at those gatherings and always will be.

I love you, Mom. I always will. I raised a glass of your favorite to you.

Live from “Aloha Beach Resort” land,
ES

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We are Religious Jews!

This is the sermon I delivered at Temple Beth Hillel on Yom Kippur morning at both services (click on the world ‘this’ and you should be directed to the text).

 

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Count Your Marbles: Honor Jewish Time

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This is the sermon I delivered on Erev Rosh Hashanah 5775 at Temple Beth Hillel.

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Happy birthday, Mom

Today would have been MY MOM’s 70th birthday. I am so grateful that MY SISTER and I had a professional photographer take these photos at her 65th birthday celebration. We knew they woudl be a treasure, we could never have imagined how invaluabe they are today.

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A quick story.

A few weeks ago I attended my first Shabbat service at TBH. It was wonderful meeting people and I was standing with a group of Friday night regulars and they were asking the basic get-to-know you questions. It was a pleasant conversation and then, somehow the subject of where my parents grew up arose.

“My parents went to rival high schools,” I said, “so our family roots are deep in Los Angeles.”

“Oh, which high schools?” asked a congregant.

“MY DAD went to high school #1 and MY MOM went to high school #2,” I answered.

“Oh, how old are your parents?”

“MY MOM passed away a few years ago. She would have been 70 this year,” I said.

“I just turned 70 this year,” said a congregant, “and I also went to high school #2. What was your mother’s maiden name?”

“Her last name was XXXXXX [I’m leaving out some of the detail information for privacy reasons.]”

“You’re kidding! I knew your mom! She was in all of the musicals and had a beautiful voice just like you!”

We both had the chills after this chance encounter.

Fast forward to this past Shabbat…

My new congregant brought her high school yearbook with her and showed me the pictures of my mom, as well as her own senior photo. Thank goodness we live in such a small world.

I love you and miss you every day, Mom.

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